Monday, December 28, 2015

Happy 2016!!

Wishing all of our clients and their family and friends a very happy and healthy new year! If you are looking to make a change for 2016, please feel free to reach out at http://innerpassagestherapy.com/


Monday, December 21, 2015

Merry Christmas & Happy Holidays!

Good afternoon,

We want to wish everyone a Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays! May you find peace and joy wherever you can during this holiday season. Here's to another year!


Monday, December 14, 2015

What Do You Notice In People?

Good morning,

Today we are sharing an article from Psychology Today on noticing the good in people. Sometimes with the holiday season madness we can get carried away and forget to notice others. Take a look at this article by Dr. Rick Hanson and see what you think!

What Do You Notice In People?
How often do we take a few seconds to get a sense of what's inside other people?
Posted Dec 14, 2015
What do you notice in people?

The Practice:
See the good in others.

Why?
Many interactions these days have a kind of bumper-car quality to them. At work, at home, on the telephone, via email: we sort of bounce off of each other while we exchange information, smile or frown, and move on. How often do we actually take the extra few seconds to get a sense of what's inside other people - especially their good qualities?

In fact, because of what scientists call the brain's "negativity bias" (you could see my talk at Google (link is external) for more on this), we're most likely to notice the bad qualities in others rather than the good ones: the things that worry or annoy us, or make us critical.

Unfortunately, if you feel surrounded by lots of bad or at best neutral qualities in others, and only a sprinkling of dimly-sensed good ones, then you naturally feel less supported, less safe, and less inclined to be generous or pursue your dreams. Plus, in a circular way, when another person gets the feeling that you don't really see much that's good in him or her, that person is less likely to take the time to see much that's good in you.

Seeing the good in others is thus a simple but very powerful way to feel happier and more confident, and become more loving and more productive in the world.

How?

Slow down - Step out of the bumper car and spend a few moments being curious about the good qualities in the other person. You are not looking through rose-colored glasses: instead, you are opening your eyes, taking off the smog-colored glasses of the negativity bias, and seeing what the facts really are.

See positive intentions - Recently I was at the dentist's, and her assistant told me a long story about her electric company. My mouth was full of cotton wads, and I didn't feel interested. But then I started noticing her underlying aims: to put me at ease, fill the time until she could pull the cotton out, and connect with each other as people. Maybe she could have pursued those aims in better ways. But the aims themselves were positive - which is true of all fundamental wants even if the methods used to fulfill them have problems. For example, a toddler throwing mashed potatoes wants fun, a teenager dripping attitude wants higher status, and a mate who avoids housework wants leisure. Try to see the good intentions in the people around you. In particular, sense the longing to be happy in the heart of every person.

See abilities - Going through school, I was very young and therefore routinely picked last for teams in PE: not good for a guy's self-esteem. Then, my first year at UCLA, I gave intramural touch football a try. We had a great quarterback who was too small for college football. After one practice, he told me in passing, "You're good and I'm going to throw to you." I was floored. But this was the beginning of me realizing that I was actually quite a good athlete. His recognition also made me play better which helped our team. Thirty-five years later I can still remember his comment. He had no idea of its impact, yet it was a major boost to my sense of worth. In the same way, unseen ripples spread far and wide when we see abilities in others - especially if we acknowledge them openly.

See positive character traits - Unless you're surrounded by deadbeats and sociopaths, everyone you know must have many virtues, such as determination, generosity, kindness, patience, energy, grit, honesty, fairness, or compassion. Take a moment to observe virtues in others. You could make a list of virtues in key people in your life - even in people who are challenging for you!

Last and not least: recognize that the good you see in others is also in you. You couldn't see that good if you did not have an inkling of what it was. You, too, have positive intentions, real abilities, and virtues of mind and heart. Those qualities are a fact, as much a fact as the chair you're sitting on. Take a moment to let that fact sink in. You don't need a halo to be a truly good person. You are a truly good person.


To view the original article source visit: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/your-wise-brain/201512/what-do-you-notice-in-people

Monday, December 7, 2015

On hand for the holidays: culinary stress-busters!

Good morning,

Today we are sharing an article from RebeccaKatz.com entitled 'On hand for the holidays: culinary stress-busters!' This is a fun and informative quick read about some essential foods you may want to have around to help reduce stress over the next few weeks. As we all know good health is about the whole picture and eating some of these delicious goodies just may help!

Here we go! The cascade of the holidays starts now.

On Thanksgiving we focus on the traditional feast, our special menu or dish we have GOT to have. 4 days to make, 4 minutes to eat. Whew! But November is about SO much more than that ONE big meal.

According to the sages of Traditional Chinese Medicine, November is the transition time into winter, a time to go inward, hibernate, rest, read books, and enjoy quiet. The weather is changing, and the body needs nourishment and care to stay healthy. But in our world, this is the time we have to bust it out!. Run around to holiday parties, put on a happy face, eat sugary treats, run around the malls, deck the halls, cope with family shenanigans -- in short, dial up the stress!

The good news: a little strategic shift and planning and cooking ahead could make this holiday season a whole new experience.

To continue reading and find out the stress-busting food alternatives visit: http://www.rebeccakatz.com/blog/on-hand-for-the-holidays-culinary-stress-busters