Monday, December 30, 2013

7 Easy Ways to Keep Your New Year’s Resolution

Hello everyone!

I hope that you all had a wonderful holiday and were able to find a little piece of happiness within yourselves.
With the new year only a two days away, we all start to think. We think about 2013 and life-changing memories or events that will stay with us forever. We think about the upcoming 2014 year and the things we would like to change about ourselves or our situations, which of course leads to the cliche "New Year's Resolutions List." Have you ever made a New Year's Resolution? Statistics show that 45% of Americans will take the time to make resolutions, but only 8% actually achieve them, with only 24% making it past the first week. So why is that? Why do we have such a hard time accomplishing goals that we know are better for us in the long-run?

This article from shares 7 Easy Ways to Keep Your New Year's Resolutions!

The statistics are bleak:
  • 45 percent of Americans usually make New Year’s Resolutions.
  • 8 percent actually achieve them.
  • 24 percent of people who make then don’t make it past the first week

I willingly admit that I am in the bottom 24 percent. Yet, every year, I make one (or five) new resolutions that I intend to keep for the next 365 days.
After doing some digging (both in my soul and on the Internet), I discovered what is holding me (and so many people) back from reaching our goals.

The No.1 reason people don’t follow through on their resolutions is that they lack self-discipline. 

This is both obvious and defeating. Of course, I don’t have self-discipline. When I think of the “d-word”, it conjures up images of monks that deny themselves all earthly pleasures. It’s just not for me. I like earthly pleasures – that’s pretty much why I’m here on earth.Though I struggle with self-discipline, I have learned that there are quite a few simple ways to overcome this shortcoming and still keep my resolutions
  1. Choose only one resolution. Multitasking is difficult. I know this – I have 25 tabs open on my browser as I write this. It turns out multitasking doesn’t even make us more productive – in fact, it may even hurt our performance. “If you have more than one resolution, you’re almost destined to fail – and every time you fail, you’re less likely to ever try again,” advises Rory Vaden, a self-discipline strategist and best-selling author.

  2. Call it a one-month resolution. 365 days. 12 months. 525,600 minutes. Big numbers are daunting and scary and make us feel like we’re never going to get there. Which is why you shouldn’t think about any goal in those terms.  According to a recent studythe majority of people (75 percent!) who successfully made it through just the first month of their resolutions continued working on them through the rest of the year.  Challenging ourselves for one month is significantly more appealing anyway. And, it's a good step toward turning this new behavior into a daily habit. In other words, our goal-keeping goes on autopilot.
  3. Tell somebody. Every article I have read about New Year’s resolutions stresses the importance of making goals a social effort.Research suggests, “Sharing with others increases your sense of responsibility to meet your objectives.” After all, we don’t want to let anyone down, right? So next time you find yourself at a big family function or nothing to share on Twitter, perhaps, you can declare your goals for 2014.
  4. Prepare for the plateau. This advice comes from financial guruRamit Sethi, who may be one of the smartest and most productive people on the planet. It’s inevitable to have a cheat day once in a while where we don’t go to the gym or we decide to eat an entire platter of buffalo wings by ourselves. Don’t beat yourself up. “Plan for it,” he writes. If your goal is to lose weight, “there’s no reason to feel guilty about it if you plan for it. What could you do to stay on track?  Keep working out? Moderate your big meals with healthy snacks?”
  5. Be specific. Studies have found that people who set specific goals (“I want to lose 15 pounds” vs. “I want to lose weight”) are more likely to be successful in maintaining their goals. And it goes without saying, that these goals should be attainable. In other words, don’t make it a goal to go swim across the Pacific Ocean, when you have trouble in your bathtub.
  6. Go for small wins. Similar to the one-month resolution above, the idea is not to overwhelm ourselves early on, which makes us more likely to give up. If the goal is to get a better job, don’t feel the pressure to do everything at once. Focus on a small project first, like re-writing your resume. Then, have a friend review it. A small win helps you feel like you actually accomplished something and will motivate you to keep going and make more small wins. You don’t need to completely overhaul your life to make a positive change.
  7. Have a game plan. So, I lied earlier about this advice being all easy. Because making a game plan is clearly not a fun task to take on, unless you’re an organizer-at-heart, which I am not. But figuring out how you’re going to fulfill your resolution is the most crucial step, because then, you’ll actually know how to do it. Think about it. Do we just go on a trip without planning our itinerary? Do we simply start cooking without a recipe to follow? Probably not. Making a game plan for achieving our goals is the same thing. We want to have a guide that will help keep us on track and also monitor our progress. It can be as simple as:
Goal: I want to save $____in 2014 to buy a __________.
Jan. goal: Save $____
What expenses will I cut down to save this money?
Amount saved $_______
Extra expenses: Birthday, holidays, etc.
I know there are a ton of other tips out there that I’ve missed – these are just the ones that really resonated with me. If you have any advice for keeping your resolutions, I’d love to hear them in the comments below

Monday, December 23, 2013

Happy Holidays and an article entitled, "Letting Go"

Good Morning Everyone!!

First, I want to wish all my clients and friends a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! I am very thankful for all of you and look forward to serving you in 2014!

Second, I want to share this writing with you on "letting go." It's definitely something to think about.  Enjoy!

Letting Go

  • To "let go" does not mean to stop caring; it means I can't do it for someone else.
  • To "let go" is not to cut myself off; it's the realization that I can't control another.
  • To "let go" is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.
  • To "let go" is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.
  • To "let go," is not to try to change or blame another; it's to make the most of myself
  • To "let go," is not to car for, but to care about.
  • To "let go," is not to judge but to allow another to be a human being.
  • To "let go," is not judge but to allow another to be a human being. 
  • To "let go," is not to be in the middle. arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their destinies. 
  • To "let go," is not to be protective; it's to permit another to face reality.
  • To "let go," is not to deny but to accept.
  • To "let go," is not to nag, scold, or argue but, instead, to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
  • To "let go" is not to adjust everything to my desires but to take each day as it comes and to cherish myself in it.
  • To "let go" is not to criticize and regulate anybody; it's to try to become what I dream I can be.
  • To "let go" is not to regret the past but to grow and live for the future.
  • To "let go" is to fear less and love more. 

Monday, December 16, 2013

Neuroscientists Confirm That Our Loved Ones Become Ourselves

Good morning!

Today is a new week! I would like to share with you an article from Psychology Today entitled, 'Neuroscientists Confirm That Our Loved Ones Become Ourselves.' The article talks about how the human brain groups people into friends/people we know versus strangers. Studies showed that if a friend is under threat, it becomes the same as if we ourselves are under threat. We can understand the pain or difficulty they may be going through in the same way we understand our own pain." It also revealed how we don't feel anything in comparison to the strangers, or unfamiliar faces.

The article also talks about some reasons why we made want to hurt the ones we love and strategies for coping when they hurt us.

Check out the full article here:

Tuesday, December 10, 2013

The Best Gift to Give—Ever! The Gift of "Doing"

With the holidays upon us, I wanted to share a brief article from Psychology today. Have you ever felt tired of going to the malls and endless stores trying to find that perfect gift? Chances are, you have spent way too much energy trying to "please" loved ones and friends with things that they probably already have, or don't want. Well, this article talks about things that you can do for gifts instead of buying material things. It highlights some fun ideas that you and your loved ones can do to create memories. Check it out!


The Best Gift to Give—Ever! The Gift of "Doing"

Out-of-the-box gift ideas
My favorite gifts to give on the holidays are not something to “have” but something my friends and family can “do." Consider this year putting aside the wrapping paper and giving an "out of the box" gift. Think about presenting at least one person you love or a friend the gift of “doing” and movement this holiday.

Here are some ideas (there are many more!). Give a gift certificate, tickets, admission fee or make a homemade coupon. These ideas range in price, activity level and adventure so think carefully about the person receiving the gift. It’s a great way to help people to get moving, active and a little out of their comfort zone this year.

Admission for Ice skating
Ski lift tickets
Tickets to a local museum
Gift certificate to an exotic/new restaurant
A ticket to a historical site
Craft lessons
Admission to a workshop, class or lecture
Tickets to the zoo
Tickets to a movie
A cooking class
A wine tasting event
A chocolate tasting event
A film festival
A boat rental
Admission to local pool
Admission to bowling or golf
Reservation for camping
Gift certificate for horseback riding
Sledding, build a snow angel, snow ball fight
A coupon to walk your dog together or to walk their dog for them
Tennis lessons
Playdate at the playground
A kite to fly
Knitting lessons
Tickets to a food show

Feel free to post your own suggestions or a gift of "doing" that you've received!!

Monday, December 2, 2013

Solutions for coping with mental illness during the holidays

Hi everyone! Here is a very interesting article from about coping with mental illness during the holidays. It talks about a variety of topics including:

-Being estranged from family and friends resulting in loneliness during the holiday season.
-Having an eating disorder and having to face the issue head-on during family gatherings and parties that center around food.
-Dealing with alcoholism or other addiction with alcohol being a main attraction during holiday get-togethers.
-Stress and anxiety that comes along with hosting holiday season celebrations or going to too many events.
-It's the holidays and your therapist or doctor is out of town.

Check it out here:
For people with mental illness, the holiday season can be challenging. Here are solutions for coping with mental illness during the holidays. - HealthyPlace

Have a wonderful day!

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