On this Monday morning, I would like to bring up the topic of shame. Although it's not a happy topic, it is something that needs to be discussed. Shame is an emotion that everyone feels at one point or another. It can cause people to act out in harmful ways towards themselves or others. Shame can contribute to bullying or irrational thinking. We can only see the outward actions of others and don't know the inner feelings or guilt causing the behaviors.
In this article, 'Bullying, Mobbing and the Role of Shame,' written by Janice Harper, Ph.D., it talks about how "for the target, being shamed is a humiliating experience as they are systematically told and reminded that their worth as a human is not valued. As the target is shamed, they withdraw into themselves, begin to feel inherently flawed and worthless, and in an ironic twist of the knife, metaphorically join the aggressors through self-loathing. Just as the aggressors make it clear they are unwanted and not valued, the target of bullying or mobbing feels, on some level, that they must be what they are viewed as."
To read more about this difficult, yet common topic, check out the full article here:
And remember, if you need help or would like someone to talk to about your own shame and/or guilt, please contact me at: http://innerpassagestherapy.com/