Monday, October 16, 2017

The Importance of Thinking Better Of Ourselves

Today we are sharing an excerpt from an article entitled 'One Hard Thing You Must Start Doing (To Stop Being Your Own Worst Enemy)' written by Marc Chernoff. This article is raw and brings to the forefront what a lot of us can find ourselves struggling with daily... insecurities.

"Truth be told, all of us, to a greater or lesser extent, suffer in precisely the way my friend does.  There isn’t a person among us who doesn’t have insecurities—some of us are just better at coping with them, or perhaps hiding them.

We worry about what other people think of us.  We worry about our appearance.  We worry if she’ll like us.  We worry if he likes that other woman.  We worry that we’re not accomplishing all that we should be.  We worry that we’ll fall flat on our faces.  We worry that we’re not enough just the way we are.  And of course, we worry about all those foolish, thoughtless things someone once said about us.

And social media—with its culture of getting us to seek constant approval with virtual likes and hearts—with its endless highlight reel of perfect bodies and epic travels—it only intensifies the problem."

The article goes on to talk about our feelings of inadequacy and some tools to help us start practicing thinking better of ourselves. Like Marc says "it’s perhaps the hardest thing we all need to do for ourselves. We need to NOT be our own worst enemies when it comes to self-image. But that takes practice.  Lots of it…"  To continue reading the article CLICK HERE for the full, original version.

To get help from a qualified, caring professional to learn how to start the practice of being your best friend, not your worst enemy, visit us at: 

Monday, October 9, 2017

What Is Mindfulness… And Why Is It Important to Therapists?

Good afternoon,

Today we are sharing an excerpt from an article entitled 'What is Mindfulness...And Why Is It Important to Therapists?' from the Barre Center for Buddhist Studies. We can't stress enough how important mindfulness is in the journey to not only healing, but happy living. Take a look at the excerpt below and follow the link to read more.

"Psychotherapists are in the business of alleviating emotional suffering. Suffering arrives in innumerable guises: stress, anxiety, depression, behavior problems, interpersonal conflict, confusion, despair. It is the common denominator of all clinical diagnoses and is endemic to the human condition.'

'Some of our suffering is existential, such as sickness, old age and dying. Some suffering has a more personal flavor. The cause of our individual difficulties may include past conditioning, present circumstances, genetic predisposition, or any number of interacting factors. Mindfulness, a deceptively simple way of relating to experience, has long been used to lessen the sting of life’s difficulties, especially those that are seemingly self-imposed. In this volume we will illustrate the potential of mindfulness for enhancing psychotherapy."

"Successful therapy changes the patient’s relationship to his or her particular form of suffering. Obviously, if we are less upset by events in our lives, our suffering will decrease. But how can we become less disturbed by unpleasant experiences? Life includes pain. Don’t the body and mind instinctively react to painful experiences? Mindfulness is a skill that allows us to be less reactive to what is happening in the moment. It is a way of relating to all experi­ence—positive, negative and neutral—such that our overall suffering is reduced and our sense of well-being increases.'

"To be mindful is to wake up, to recognize what is happening in the present moment. We are rarely mindful. We are usually caught up in distracting thoughts or in opinions about what is happening in the moment. This is mindlessness.

'Examples of mindlessness are:

-Rushing through activities without being attentive to them.
-Breaking or spilling things because of carelessness, inattention, or thinking of something else.
-Failing to notice subtle feelings of physi­cal tension or discomfort.
-Forgetting a person’s name almost as soon as we’ve heard it.
-Finding ourselves preoccupied with the future or the past.
-Snacking without being aware of eating.
(Adapted from the Mindful Attention Awareness Scale Brown & Ryan, 2003)

Mindfulness, in contrast, focuses our attention on the task at hand. When we are mindful, our attention is not entangled in the past or future, and we are not judging or rejecting what is occurring at the mo­ment. We are present. This kind of attention generates energy, clear-headedness and joy. Fortunately, it is a skill that can be cultivated by anyone."

To view more of this article visit the link here.  To set up a free, 30-minute phone consultation and start your journey to mindfulness contact us today at: 

Monday, October 2, 2017

The Essence of Doing and How It Consumes You

Good afternoon everyone,

"Most people spend most minutes of most days doing one thing after another.' 'For all the "labor-saving" devices of the past 50 years - dishwashers, phone machines, word processors, etc. - most of us are laboring more, not less. For example, in terms of employment, the average work week in America has gotten longer over the past 50 years. Meet someone and ask how he or she is, the answer is likely: "busy." Doing is a huge part of life, yet we don't usually bring much awareness or wisdom to it."

We understand that 'doing' is a part of life, it's the way we're programmed, it's the way society expects us to be. However there are ways you can change how you relate to the 'doing' in your life and how you can bring meaning to it.  "So the crux is not so much the doing itself but our relationship to it. How can we do what we do without getting pressed and stressed, contracted and driven, about it?" (CLICK HERE to view the entire article from Psychology today.)

If you are looking for ways to change the way you go about your daily life or are looking for help in managing your stress, visit us today! Learn about the integrative services we offer to help you find your true life's meaning and not feel like you are stuck "doing." Learn more at: 

Monday, September 25, 2017

Understanding Mental Health

Emotional well being, psychological well being, and social well being are all dimensions of mental health, and subject to change under stress. Mental health issues are rarely the result of one event, rather, they often develop over time as the result of linked causes. For example a stressful job, a difficult relationship, or a significant trauma can cause shifts in thinking, feeling, and mood that, in turn, color our perceptions, tax our energy levels, impact our ability to function productively, and challenge our ability connect with others.

Part of my commitment to helping my clients is ensuring we are pursuing a path of happiness, health and wellbeing. Oftentimes, clients begin this process at a difficult and painful point in their lives. They are turning to therapy because they have already reached a stage where they feel overwhelmed, scared, angry, or disconnected. I help clients peel back the layers of emotional pain, which can result from a myriad of experiences. Because I take a holistic approach to therapy we will explore a variety of different practices to generate a completely personalized experience.

Together, we will explore practices aimed at guiding you inward to release pain, anger, and other difficult emotions, and at moving you forward armed with practical tools and methods for dealing with life’s crises and transitions. My training in conventional psychotherapy, integrative medicine, and mindbody practices such as mindfulness, yoga and yoga therapy, breathing practices, coaching, and healing touch, is extensive. I have a broad variety of resources and nearly 20 years of experience from which to draw in serving my clients, assisting them in easing their suffering, helping them heal, reconnecting with their truest selves and their loved ones, and thriving in their lives.

Contact me today to learn more and start your process of healing:  #240-447-0131.

Monday, September 18, 2017

More About Energy Healing & One Author's Experience

Hello everyone,

Energy medicines such as healing touch and Reiki, or therapeutic yoga, are holistic practices that activate the body’s subtle energy systems in order to remove blockages or regenerate resources that feel stagnant or depleted. By breaking through these blockages and stimulating renewed energy flow, the body’s inherent ability to heal itself is stimulated.

At Inner Passages, I offer Reiki and healing touch — energy therapies which involve the non-invasive use of my hands and heart-centered intention, to clear, energize, and balance my clients’ energy fields. It is based on a heart-centered, caring relationship that can facilitate the client’s health and healing. The goal is always to restore balance and harmonies in the energy system, so the client is in an optimal, receptive position to self-heal.

In one article from NY Daily News, a writer explores several popular methods of energy healing and shares her own experiences. "Can a slight touch, a firm touch or even no touch really heal what's ailing you?

Energy healing — tapping into the body's own frequencies as a type of alternative medicine — is being taken seriously by health practitioners trained in both eastern and western modalities of medicine.

And science is backing up its powers: One 2013 study found that 10 minutes of energy healing was as effective as physical therapy in improving the range of motion in people with mobility problems. UCLA even has en electromyography (EMG) lab that studies electrical activity in the body."

To learn what this author's experience with Reiki was, click here to view the entire article link. 

If you are looking to try Reiki as part of your integrative therapy or are looking for new ways to restore an balance your energy system, contact me today! You can learn more by visiting: 

Monday, September 11, 2017

Behavior & Perceptual Change

Good afternoon everyone!

Perception is the sense we make out of all our experiences—our thoughts, physical feelings, emotions, and moods. Behavior is the outward expression of our perception. It is what we do with the information, experienced and interpreted through all the senses we have available to us, when we choose to respond to our experience.

Our perception both colors and fuels our behavior. So how we feel about any given experience influences how we respond and react, which we often develop into patterned responses. Most of my clients come to me when some combination of thinking and behaving is causing them to feel painfully stuck in one or more of these response patterns, which they perceive and characterize as “negative,” “dark,” “lonely,” and “scary.”

Many people who turn to therapy have already reached a stage where they feel overwhelmed, scared, angry, or disconnected. With work, we can turn those negative and fearful emotions around and build a safe and trusting course forward. It’s of utmost importance to me that I help lessen my clients’ fears by creating an environment where each and every person I work with feels safe and supported. Therapy can be hard work. I strive to make it easier. I want those I work with to know that with me they have a knowledgeable and compassionate partner who will guide them on their journey toward living a pain free and fuller life.

It is my goal to provide clients with a toolbox of practical strategies, through processes and practices so that when they are out in the real world they have what they need. For nearly 20 years, I’ve helped people get unstuck through counseling and emotional healing techniques. At the onset my promise to my clients is that they will have the full benefit of my experience and that I will work just as hard as each client who comes to my door to assist them on their personal journeys. This work goes far beyond scheduled therapy sessions.

What many clients may not realize is the long-term effects of pain. Even events from the distant past can  hold them back from attaining a sense of ease and wellbeing in present relationships, work and daily life. I am committed to helping all of my clients improve their sense of balance and quality of life.

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Tuesday, September 5, 2017

Link Found Between Generosity and Happiness

Good afternoon!

Today we are sharing an article published on a study done by Nature Communications on the link between generosity and happiness. The study found that there is a neural link between the two and when people do more generous tasks for others, they often feel more self satisfaction and happiness. If you are looking to establish a plan to help get your life back on track to find your own happiness, contact us today!  

If you want to learn more about the scientific specifics of this neat study click on the link below:
"Generous behaviour is known to increase happiness, which could thereby motivate generosity. In this study, we use functional magnetic resonance imaging and a public pledge for future generosity to investigate the brain mechanisms that link generous behaviour with increases in happiness. Participants promised to spend money over the next 4 weeks either on others (experimental group) or on themselves (control group). Here, we report that, compared to controls, participants in the experimental group make more generous choices in an independent decision-making task and show stronger increases in self-reported happiness. Generous decisions engage the temporo-parietal junction (TPJ) in the experimental more than in the control group and differentially modulate the connectivity between TPJ and ventral striatum. Importantly, striatal activity during generous decisions is directly related to changes in happiness. These results demonstrate that top–down control of striatal activity plays a fundamental role in linking commitment-induced generosity with happiness." Source: